I hate asking myself that question because I feel so guilty doing so. but i do.
There are nights when all of the older kids have gone out with their friends and Boyfriend and I are just sitting around watching Wee One play.
Our youngest is 15 years old,
our oldest 23.
Our children are out on the town, our friends are out on the town,
and here we sit.
Don't get me wrong - we LOVE the time we spend with Wee One,
it's just that,
well, I wonder…
it's just that,
well, I wonder…
Would we be out having a fancy dinner, just the two of us, planning our next vacation?
Would we be out with some friends listening to some great jazz band we've wanted to see?
Would we be taking a romantic walk under the stars, reminiscing about where we've been and dreaming about where we want to be?
You see, we've done our time. We were (and still are!) great parents. Our lives revolved around our kids-(I know you are thinking, well, that was dumb! It's not healthy for a relationship to have your focus be your children!)
but when you raise 7 kids…some with special needs…
then you can tell me
HOW TO NOT
have your life revolve around your children.
but when you raise 7 kids…some with special needs…
then you can tell me
HOW TO NOT
have your life revolve around your children.
Sometimes we had up to 10 soccer practices a week to transport to and from, 5 games a weekend,
and really, can you even imagine tournaments??
I literally had to map out who went where when and make sure boyfriend and I each had a copy of the list so we could drop off, pick up, drop off again… and hopefully remember to pick up our little athletes!
It was wonderful. Seriously.
We loved living the life we lived, with just a few exceptions.
Add in other after school activities, church, youth group, and such to the mix and our lives were beyond full. We would often joke about the time when our kids would be grown and you would still be able to find us at the sidelines of the local soccer field, cheering on the the kids.
and really, can you even imagine tournaments??
I literally had to map out who went where when and make sure boyfriend and I each had a copy of the list so we could drop off, pick up, drop off again… and hopefully remember to pick up our little athletes!
It was wonderful. Seriously.
We loved living the life we lived, with just a few exceptions.
Add in other after school activities, church, youth group, and such to the mix and our lives were beyond full. We would often joke about the time when our kids would be grown and you would still be able to find us at the sidelines of the local soccer field, cheering on the the kids.
Our dreams for when our kids got older weren't large,
they were just peaceful.
A few trips here and there, being able to cook a nice meal together while sipping a glass of wine (stopping to slow dance when our favorite songs came on),
being able to give more of our time and energy volunteering
in our community and church.
they were just peaceful.
A few trips here and there, being able to cook a nice meal together while sipping a glass of wine (stopping to slow dance when our favorite songs came on),
being able to give more of our time and energy volunteering
in our community and church.
simple. lovely. nice.
Instead of feeling sorry for ourselves, we have embraced it. We will still have our trips, we will just be bringing along a toddler (WHAT A LUCKY KID!!),
we will still cook our meals and
dance our dances, but we will have a wee one dancing with us.
Our time volunteering will include an extra little helper… learning to give even at this wee young age. What a great way for a kid to grow up…. Don't you think?
And as for me wondering what we would be doing right now?
Well, I'll just keep reminding myself that we are doing exactly what we would be…just with three of us instead of two.
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